Ever since I became a lactation consultant in 2015, I have encountered misconceptions about what the role of a lactation consultant really is--the main one being that we only approve of breastfeeding, and judge families who choose any feeding method other than breastfeeding. Friends would find out that I was a lactation consultant and say immediately, as though I might automatically judge, "Well, I couldn't breastfeed because..." Patients have told me, with shame, "Last night I gave the baby formula during cluster feeding, but I only gave it one time. I know I wasn't supposed to."
My answer, always and immediately, is that there is no right or wrong way to feed your baby. You have to do what works for you, not what pleases everyone else. As a lactation consultant, I will reassure you that no matter how you feed your baby, it is never "wrong" or "harmful."
So let's clear up some of these misconceptions about what lactation consultants do and don't do.
Lactation Consultants DO:
My answer, always and immediately, is that there is no right or wrong way to feed your baby.
Although that sums up our job description, the role of a lactation consultant is so much more than that. Just because breastfeeding is healthy and natural, doesn't mean it comes naturally. This is more than just a job to us--breastfeeding is something we are truly passionate about. We are passionate about helping moms and families achieve their desired feeding goals. We want to be your support system during this exciting, stressful, scary and emotional time in your life.
Here at BTC, we:
Ultimately, we will help you find out what is best for your family and then we will support you on your journey. We want to give you the confidence and support you need in order to reach your goal of a positive mother/baby bonding experience. Our goal is to help you feel proud of the goals you accomplished and guide in how YOU choose to feed your baby. After all, mom knows best:)
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I sat on the couch next to her as she peacefully nursed her beautiful two-week-old daughter, a strand of misplaced hair hanging over her sleep deprived eyes. "I feel like I JUST figured out breastfeeding!" she exclaimed. "And now that we have all the kinks worked out, I am totally scared about what will happen when I have to go back to work in two months."
I knew exactly how she felt. I breastfed my first three children--my boys--while working full time. Fortunately for me, I had a mostly positive, successful experience while pumping 3-4 times a day. But that is not the reality for many mothers who return back to work.
The number one worry many mothers express to me is their ability to step away from their job for even 10 minutes to pump.The second concern they have is "where will I pump?"--a very valid concern since many workplaces lack a "real" (aka, appropriate) place to pump (see here for a slideshow of workplace pumping "rooms") I pumped for years in the employee bathroom at my job. And faced passive pressure when it came to how long my pumping sessions lasted. "Wow, that took a really long time," a coworker would comment. Or, from my boss, "It's already time for you to pump AGAIN?"
Aside from these concerns, mothers going back to work face other environmental elements that can impact their breastfeeding relationship--insecurity about milk supply, feelings associated with being separated from their baby for the first time or for long periods of time, and the day-to-day pressure of balancing work expectations with being a new mom.
So what can a new mom do to help their transition from new mommyhood to new working mommyhood?
1. KNOW YOUR RIGHTS
Fortunately, things are changing, and employers are being held responsible for supporting breastfeeding employees. Reuter's just released an article on these new expectations set forth by the Affordable Care Act.
2. HAVE AN HONEST DISCUSSION WITH YOUR EMPLOYER
Communicate what you need and want to support your breastfeeding relationship BEFORE you go back to work. Do you need a place to pump? Better to have it set up before you are sitting at your desk and catch a glimpse of your baby's photo and have to scramble for your pump because your milk came in and started spraying everywhere. Let your employer know that it will be unpredictable as to how often and how long your pumping sessions will be.
3. GET SUPPORT
Go to La Leche League meetings. Hire me (one of my offerings is a Back to Work Breastfeeding Course). Hook up with other working-while-breastfeeding mommas. Working mommas need a very different type of support than stay-at-home mothers in my experience.
4. GET AN AWESOME PUMP
None of this "I can just use the manual pump I got from the hospital." Nope. Not gonna work for most mommas. In order to sustainably maintain your supply and be pumping 3-4 times per day several days a week, a dual electric pump made by a REPUTABLE brand (check customer reviews) is necessary. Carpal tunnel syndrome is the last thing a new momma needs. It is an investment well worth it ($300 for a good new pump that will last years pales in comparison to the $20-$40 per week that formula costs). And you may not need to foot the bill for a great pump in the end--many insurance companies as well as WIC and Medicaid now have programs to cover the cost of a pump. Call your insurance provider to find out. In addition, breastfeeding and pump-related items are now tax-deductible, so save your receipts for all those breast pads, storage bags and containers, and accessories! Learn to use your pump and all it's parts BEFORE you go back to work--preferably within a few weeks of your baby's birth. Take it apart and put it back together and figure out how you will clean it and transport it on a daily basis. Figure out ahead of time which settings are right for you so you aren't trying to learn the difference between the "let down" and "suction" buttons during your first pumping attempt at work.
5,UNDERSTAND THAT THE PHYSIOLOGY OF BREASTFEEDING IS DIFFERENT WHEN PUMPING REGULARLY
A mother who does not pump will not have the same breastfeeding experience or challenges as a momma who pumps. Your pump is plastic. It is not soft and warm and full of oxytocin and prolactin-releasing pheromones like your baby. It does not form to your breast the way your baby's cute little wet mouth does. It doesn't coo. It sounds like a yellow submarine. It's like comparing hugging a puppy vs. a robot. It just isn't the same. You may have to work a little harder to build and maintain your supply as your body figures out how to respond to the pump.
6. UNDERSTAND YOUR LIMITS
Motherhood is stressful enough. When we add in the obstacles of being a new mom, the emotions that come with the postpartum period, breastfeeding for the first time, and then returning to work within 3 months of birth, life can seem overwhelming. Breastfeeding can take MONTHS to get well-established--and just because you've breastfed before doesn't mean anything. Every baby presents new challenges. Don't feel like a bad mom if you need to reassess what is and isn't working for your family. For some, this may mean taking it one day at a time. For others, it will mean breastfeeding as long as possible but then supplementing or transitioning to formula. For some, it will mean rethinking the structure of the home and if working is absolutely necessary, or if maternity leave can be lengthened or if a part-time transition back to work might be possible. For every momma, it will mean that each day of breastmilk baby gets is a total win.
You're doing great Momma--don't second guess yourself or compare yourself to others. Your body is amazing. It just grew a person, then went through the incredible transition of giving birth to that person, then it started FEEDING that person. If men could do that, they would be all over the bragging rights.
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