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Sustainable Self-Care for the Sleepless Momma

6/6/2017

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PictureRebekah McKenzie
Six years of mothering, and I’ve just now come to terms with this: ideal sleep is simply not part of early motherhood.  Motherhood comes pre-loaded with self-sacrifice, and it shows up in myriad ways.  Too much self-sacrifice leads to self-neglect – and in the area of sleep, that looks like sleep deprivation.  So, how do we get enough rest to sustain us through the constantly shifting, day-and-night demands of mothering?  In this post, I want to address how we can use a specific self-care tool to balance self-sacrifice in the area of sleep.

This ain’t your mama’s “sleep when the baby sleeps.”  (Of course, there’s nothing wrong with that advice, it’s just an incomplete solution that won’t serve you forever.)  One of the keys to restoring the sleep you’re losing is a little-known concept called ultradian rhythms.  When these cycles run at night, we call them sleep cycles, and they repeat about every 90-120 minutes.  As it turns out (but no one bothered to tell us), these cycles continue throughout our waking hours, too.

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most of us feel this fatigue coming on, and we don’t take the break – at least not in a way that works with our biology.  We respond by grabbing something sugary or caffeinated while we scroll social media, hoping to snap out of this nonsense.  
Is this scenario familiar to you?  You’re working on a task for a while, and though you were in the zone, feeling energetic and productive, now you feel like you’ve hit a brick wall and are unable to focus.  You’ve just experienced an “ultradian rhythm.”  We spend the majority of the cycle in a task-oriented mode, and we descend into an energy dip, a break, for a period of 15-20 minutes.  It’s brief, but this ultradian rhythm break like a mini-sleep that allows your body to repair cell tissue, restore brain function, and energize you for the next cycle.  These breaks are your key to replenishing some of the rest that’s missing from your nighttime sleep.

​The thing is, most of us feel this fatigue coming on, and we don’t take the break – at least not in a way that works with our biology.  We respond by grabbing something sugary or caffeinated while we scroll social media, hoping to snap out of this nonsense.  Or, conversely, we plow ahead with our task, forcing ourselves to the finish line.  The fatigued feeling will pass, but we’ll pay for it in the next ultradian rhythm by being less creative and productive than if we’d taken a proper break.

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​How to Take a Break that Actually Replenishes You
  • Notice these rhythms. If you’re unaccustomed to responding positively to your body’s need for rest, just keep an eye out.  These cycles are happening to you, but it could take you a bit to recognize them.  Some cues your body may give you are: thirst, hunger, needing to go to the bathroom, and lack of mental focus
  • Switch up whatever you were doing, body and mind. If you were hunched over, lean back and let your mind wander.  If you were hustling around the house doing chores, lie down or put your feet up and think about your day.  If you were working on a computer, go for a walk outside and consider what the rest of your day may look like.  Most importantly, switch your mind from task orientation to an activity like daydreaming or introspecting.
  • Deep-breathe. Calm yourself by inhaling into your ribcage for a count of four, and exhaling for a count of eight.  Repeat a few times
  • Drink a glass of water. By the time the next break cycles around, you’ll need to go to the bathroom.  Then have another glass of water.
  • Go to the bathroom and don’t take your phone (what?!) Social media doesn’t allow your mind to wander and introspect, and this is exactly the mental mode that allows your brain to balance and heal.
  • Give your kids a 15- to 20-minute activity that will occupy their attention. It may be a stack of fresh-from-the-library books or (gasp!) a single show on Netflix.
We often let an all-or-nothing mentality get in the way of progress.  You don’t have to take all the potential breaks in a day to reap the benefits!  Start small: pick a couple times in the day when you anticipate a lull in your energy, and plan to take a 15- to 20-minute break at those times – perhaps mid-morning and mid-afternoon would work for you.  Just don’t underestimate the rejuvenation that occurs in what seems like such a trivial amount of time.
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You can do it, momma--because you're amazing!

Much love, Rebekah. 
2 Comments
Heidi
6/13/2017 07:21:02 pm

Thanks for the info!!! I will be listening to my body more from now on. I am past the sleep deprived haze, but parenting 3 small kids during the day is still exhausting at times! I have noticed that if I lay down for a few minutes (even though I don't fall asleep) I feel better afterwards.

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Rebekah
6/16/2017 05:14:03 am

That's so true, Heidi! I'm also in that sweet spot with a 6- and a 3-year-old, but I still try adhere to these rest breaks a couple times a day. Makes ALL the difference for me.

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